I can’t understand the pain that you went through i.e. having relatives but none of them who actually lent a helping hand. But when my grandfather was very sick, my mum’s 2nd brother was the one doing all the talking and instructing what his other siblings should do. All words and no action at all done by him. He just stood there giving instructions. My mum and her siblings weren’t complaining that they had to clean my grandpa and feed him but me as a bystander who could only help to fetch this and that felt horrible for them.
On the day my grandpa passed away, all of us were at his bedside but that uncle of mine was standing away at one corner. Probably too afraid to see death.

About the trustees who absconded with your money…You should take legal action. A trustee has fiduciary duties and they are responsible to you as a beneficiary. But of course, depending on what type of trust your late set up, there are different rules about what and how a beneficiary can get. Seek legal advice. Don’t let those ungrateful people scott free.

Cherry,
We choose how we want to live. I chose to allow ingrates dictate my emotions. That was unhealthy. Now I choose to leave all that behind. It is a great relief. Life is less complicated that way. Thank you for your advice.

thank you for sharing your story with us.

i think it’s wonderful that you’ve decided to let go and move on.

for me, i’m a great believer in the “accept and let go” way of dealing with things i can’t change. it helps me be so much happier. i wish I had known this when i was younger… would have saved me a lot of grief!

i like the prayer that goes: “Lord grant me the courage to do the things I can, the serenity to accept the things I can’t, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

God bless and merry christmas!

adriene