Comments on: Life And Death: Who Can Decide?

By: thquah

thquah — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

yes this is complicated.If one’s is in the vegitative state then I feel is ok to ends one’s life.( I would write out my will that way) It is more suffering for everyone to endure each and everyday looking at the love one’s who is suffering and can’t do anything to help.

By: lucia

lucia — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

how will you know, thquah, that it is more suffering for everyone who has to take care of you in your vegetative state? if they are really your loved ones,they would want you alive even in vegetative state. at least that is my opinion. being vegetative is only somewhat similiar as being disabled… the person is still alive.

peter, your cousin peter was very right to be adamant that you should feed your mum. that’s the way it should be. no matter in what state a person is, s/he should be fed… just like all of us, we eat (fed) to live.

peter, i have told you before about my uncle who is a priest, remember? (your ex parish priest). it seems that he and terri are in the same condition, except he’s only 5 years presently while terri is 15 years already. you can read more what i say on this topic in my blog.

By: mwt

mwt — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Peter, the decision you made was a bold and correct one at that time. No one “dies” before their time. When the soul is ready to release the body, when it has accomplished what it came here to do, it moves on. There is always a reason. To realize that each soul is making its decisions is a beautiful, healing and freeing experience.

What is nagging you now is that how do you know if you are approaching such decisions in clarity, dignity and integrity? This is YOUR individual decision.

Ask one another, connect with God within your heart, and you will know.

By: Bkworm

Bkworm — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

I saw my mum suffer much before she died. I wanted more days with her but also could feel her agony of pain and helplessness. In her last days, she was hardly conscious but could still feel pain even at the slightest movement. Reality is, she was waiting to die and we all knew she was going to die. My dad said he wished she would ‘go’ faster so that her suffering would end. Does it mean my dad loved her any less? I don’t think so. While my faith does not allow euthanasia, it seems so cruel to see a loved one suffer endlessly and all we can do is just watch and pray. Whatever you did, you knew best. And I am sure your mum too. Sometimes it’s easy to pass judgement when we are not in the shoes of those who are going through it. Again, I think if we walk close to God, we will know what to do when the situation requires it.

By: mystic

mystic — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Peter,its very brave of you. I would have done the same if its my parents wish. I don’t see a reason why I need to prolong a person’s life is it means suffering for both party.